There are plenty of good men out there who actually want marriage, monogamy, and to be providers. It’s not rocket science, and there’s no grand conspiracy behind it. The ones making you think that all men cheat, hate marriage, or insist on splitting the bill for everything? Yeah, those are the guys permanently glued to their phones, deep in the trenches of online debates.
Meanwhile, there’s an entire ocean of men who aren’t even aware of these digital gender wars. They’re too busy living real life and just want a solid, traditional marriage—like their dad had. If your world revolves around the internet, don’t be surprised when you keep attracting men whose lives are built on hot takes and Twitter battles.
Most men of a decent—or let’s be honest, ‘high’ calibre aren’t sitting around analysing the paid courses you’ve taken or the clever little dating tactics your favourite influencer swears by. They’re not decoding every move you make like it’s some grand psychological experiment.
For them, attraction is straightforward. It comes down to personality, looks, education, and how well you can engage socially. No gimmicks, no mind games—just genuine connection. So while you’re busy perfecting strategies, they’re simply looking for someone who naturally fits into their world.
Sometimes, you need to take a step back and realise that the man meant for you isn’t spending his days doom-scrolling for tips on how to attract or undermine women. He’s probably busy, well-employed, and refreshingly straightforward. Chances are, he doesn’t even have TikTok or Instagram because his mental energy is going into something productive—like his career, his goals, or his actual life—not your FYP or your favourite influencer’s latest hot take.
A man who isn’t terminally online and comes from a solid upbringing will naturally provide and just… be normal. Meanwhile, you’re out here playing 4D chess with men who are both porn-addled and easily swayed—guys who binge-watch ‘alpha male’ courses like it’s the gospel.
Instead of grounding yourself in real life, real women, and, dare I say, touching grass, you’re taking notes from influencer TikTok like it’s a blueprint for love. And honestly? That might just be the biggest plot twist in modern dating.
It’s crucial to educate yourself on today’s economy. There are women who confidently say they want three kids but have zero idea how much it actually costs to sustain a family of five each year. Dreaming is great, but a little financial reality check wouldn’t hurt.
I’m not saying you should settle, but let’s be real—the monogamous, loyal husband you’re dreaming of isn’t the one funding a rapper’s, footballers wife lifestyle. He’s not showering you with endless designer bags just because it’s Tuesday. Instead, he’s the type to give you a few meaningful, high-quality gifts for life’s important moments—because for him, love isn’t about excess, it’s about intention.
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