Let’s be brutally honest: sometimes being single feels like being the only sober person at a drunk karaoke night. Everyone around you is loudly singing (off-key), hyping each other up, and you’re just… sitting there wondering when the next round of tequila shots will arrive.
Your friends are posting #CoupleGoals brunch selfies. Another engagement ring clogs up your feed (honestly, how many “she said yes” posts can one person stomach?). And let’s not forget the horror of being a bridesmaid in yet anotherwedding where you’re stuck walking down the aisle with “Gary, the groom’s cousin” who still lives with his mum.
But here’s the thing nobody tells you: being single is not a punishment. In fact, it’s secretly the biggest flex of them all.
Yep, I said it. And if you’re already side-eyeing me, good. Stick with me, because this is where it gets juicy. If you ever need a friend to talk about this at anytime Velvet Circle offers an exclusive service that caters to lonely people who want genuine human connections.
The Awkward Reality of Being the Single One
Let’s paint the picture. Friday night, you and the girls go out for dinner. Except by “girls,” I mean three couples, and you.
You show up, looking amazing in your carefully chosen “casual but slay” outfit, and suddenly it’s like you’ve walked into Noah’s Ark: everyone came in twos.
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You order your cocktail while the others do that nauseating “oh babe, let’s share a starter” routine.
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Midway through, someone cracks a joke about “single people being wild” and the whole table turns to look at you like you’re the Exhibit A of loneliness.
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And don’t even get me started on the sympathetic “don’t worry, you’ll find someone” comment. Girl, I didn’t say I was worried. YOU’RE worried because your man still likes his ex’s pictures at 2am.
The awkwardness is real. But let’s take a step back. Why do we act like the worst thing you can be is single? Honestly, being stuck in the wrong relationship is like having a bad tattoo on your forehead — visible, permanent-looking, and harder to explain at family gatherings.
The Secret Superpower of Solitude: Freedom
Do you know what’s underrated? Freedom.
Single people don’t have to:
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Ask permission to buy a neon-pink sofa just because it “clashes with his man cave vibes.”
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Spend three hours in IKEA pretending to care about curtain rods.
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Share a duvet with someone who hogs it every night and leaves you shivering like a neglected Victorian child.
Instead, you get:
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Unlimited time to binge Netflix shows without waiting for someone who “isn’t in the mood tonight.”
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The power to book a last-minute solo trip without negotiating calendars.
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The sheer luxury of silence. No football commentary blaring in the background. No “babe, what’s for dinner?” nagging. Just peace, scented candles, and your Spotify playlist on full blast.
That, my friends, is freedom. And freedom is priceless.
Why Being in the Wrong Relationship is Worse
Let’s get controversial here: being in a bad relationship is 100x worse than being single.
Why? Because loneliness is temporary. A toxic partner is like a permanent migraine.
Picture this:
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You’re lying awake at 2am wondering why he still follows his ex on Instagram.
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You’re pretending his “just the boys” holiday doesn’t make you want to throw up.
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You’re slowly becoming the kind of person who googles “how to know if he’s cheating” at 1:15 in the morning.
Tell me again how that’s better than being single?
Newsflash: having a warm body next to you doesn’t guarantee happiness. Sometimes it just means more laundry and a clogged sink because apparently men can’t shave without leaving a hair apocalypse behind.
The Glow-Up Era: What You Can Do With All This Time
Here’s the fun part: you’re in your glow-up era and you don’t even know it.
When you’re single, you have the rare opportunity to:
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Work on YOU. Build the career, launch the side hustle, start the gym routine you’ve been “meaning to.”
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Travel. Book the trip. Take the train. Fly first class if you feel like it. Nobody to stop you but your own bank account.
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Experiment. Dye your hair purple. Learn salsa. Take up pottery. Become the chaotic main character of your own life.
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Upgrade your circle. Make new friends, network, and surround yourself with people who make you feel alive, not drained.
Relationships are beautiful, but they also demand compromise. This is your era of zero compromise. Enjoy it.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Damn About Auntie’s Questions
Family gatherings are their own brand of torture. Somewhere between the samosas and the roast chicken, Auntie will lean in with that smile:
“So… when’s your turn?”
Your cousins are popping out babies like Wi-Fi passwords, and you’re just trying to sip your wine in peace.
Here’s the trick: flip it back. Say, “I don’t know, Auntie. When’s your turn to mind your business?” (Okay, maybe don’t actually say that… unless you’re feeling bold.)
But seriously, stop internalising everyone else’s timeline. There’s no expiry date on finding love. And if people really want to treat being single like a tragedy, let them — you’ll be too busy booking your Bali trip or smashing your business goals to care.
Controversial Takes That Might Make People Mad (But Are True)
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Marriage isn’t the ultimate prize. Stability is. Happiness is. Freedom is. A ring is just jewellery.
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Couple flexing is overrated. We don’t need to see every single “date night” or “good morning, my love” text screenshot. Save it for the scrapbook, not Instagram stories.
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Single people secretly have it better. More money, more time, less stress. Sorry not sorry.
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Divorce lawyers exist for a reason. Half the people flexing their “perfect” marriages now will be crying to a solicitor later. Bitter? No. Realistic? Absolutely.
How to Actually Enjoy Being Single (Instead of Just Pretending)
Okay, enough theory. Let’s talk survival tips.
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Romanticise your single life. Buy yourself flowers. Cook candlelit dinners for one. Flirt with life.
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Invest in your passions. That guitar gathering dust? Play it. That blog idea? Start it.
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Create solo traditions. Sunday spa days, Friday movie nights, or Wednesday karaoke in your living room.
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Build the life you’d want someone to join. That way, when the right person shows up, they’re a bonus — not the foundation.
The Bottom Line
Being single while everyone else couples up can sting. But here’s the reality: you’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re free.
And freedom is the most underrated luxury in a world obsessed with #RelationshipGoals.
One day, if you want to, you’ll meet someone who fits. But until then? Live. Loudly. Boldly. Unapologetically.
Because the only thing worse than being single is wasting your single years wishing them away.