You know those people who treat every conversation like an episode of Black Mirror? The ones who thrive on bad newsand can’t wait to tell you how the world is falling apart? Yeah, them. Fear-mongers. And let me tell you right now, they are not your friends.
They Don’t Want to “Warn” You—They Want to Control You
These people will disguise their negativity as “concern.”
- “I just don’t want you to get your hopes up…”
- “Be careful, you know people like you never really succeed in that industry…”
- “You’re sure you wanna travel there? I heard it’s really dangerous…”
Translation? They don’t want you to succeed. Because if you do, it’ll prove that their fear-based reality is a lie. And nothing threatens them more than watching someone else break free from the chains they willingly wear.
They Get a Kick Out of Your Anxiety
Here’s the ugly truth: fear-mongers feed off your distress. When they see you spiraling, second-guessing yourself, or feeling small, they feel powerful. Their whole personality is built on spreading panic like a bad Wi-Fi signal.
They want to keep you in a constant state of “what if?”
- What if it goes wrong?
- What if you fail?
- What if you embarrass yourself?
But what if they’re just miserable and projecting?
How to Handle These Energy Vampires
Step one: mute, block, or limit access.
Step two: stop explaining yourself. You don’t owe them a PowerPoint presentation on why you choose peace.
Step three: start listening to people who actually uplift you. Because the truth is, most of these fear-mongers aren’t even qualified to be giving advice in the first place.
At the end of the day, people who truly care about you will empower you—not keep you living in fear. If someone constantly drains your peace and replaces it with anxiety, they gotta go. Protect your mindset at all costs.